There is a special rule at the boss and Matt’s house, which faults and disobedience,plus naughtiness are punished at the end of the week! This time it is Remi’s turn and what I’m seeing, Sammy(enjoying the misfortune of Sammy) is reading aloud all the faults made by his brother, which are written in a long list!Poor Remi … your going to need a lot of ice(and a diaper) for your little sore bottom!
Yes it sure looks like Koma-san is a weary bad boy and it seems like his butt started to get red but i think it is going to be more red before he is allow to leave. Special if he has been a weary naughty boy.
A major part of many kinky dynamics is a focus on discipline. While “discipline” can be a fun part of your everyday activities, it can also mean something more specific in terms of punishment. “Punishment” differs from the general sense of discipline in that it has a specific goal to focus on that changes a submissive’s behaviour.
Many people engage in what can be called “funishment,”—punishment-type activities, like regular spankings or other forms of play, that are not meant to alter the behaviour of the submissive but rather to provide enjoyment to either/both/all parties. However, it is important to distinguish the difference between playful discipline and serious punishments. Punishments are consequences of negative actions, whether this is based on officially-written regulations or unspoken general behaviours like brattiness, defiance, or dangerous behaviours.
The idea of punishment is based largely on psychological research in the area of behaviourism. It consists of techniques that are supported by science to effectively alter the behaviour of an individual. (If you want to learn more about the research behind punishments, look up B. F. Skinner’s work in this area.)
Two types of punishments exist: positive punishments, which addundesired consequences to the behaviour, and negative punishments, which take awaydesired privileges.
Now, before I get into some specific ideas for punishments, there are some important key points I’d like to make. Please be sure to read all of these before deciding on a specific punishment.
Punishments do NOT negate the right to a safeword. Some people are mislead into dangerous situations by being told they cannot safeword during a punishment. This is completely untrue. All parties have a right to safeword at any time during any kind of play or punishment. Taking away the right to safeword equates to abuse, plain and simple. Don’t ever tell your partner they cannot safeword or ignore their safeword for the sake of punishment. This is not effective and is extremely harmful to your partner’s mental and/or physical well-being.
NEVER punish out of anger. Anger is never a healthy motivation for punishment. Punishments are meant for the submissive’s benefit, at the core. If the submissive’s behaviour has made the Dominant angry, they should have a cooling-off period where they can calm down, think about an appropriate punishment, and resolve the matter at a later time, after healthy discussion about what happened.
Limits are NOT to be used as punishments. Many people have activities they don’t particularly enjoy that aren’t on their limits list. Some people have specific ideas for punishments that suit them best. However, regardless of you or your partner’s experience with punishments, it needs to be understood that hard limits are not punishments. Hard limits are never to be used for punishment’s sake because “hard limit” means “I do not want to do this under any circumstance.” Using a hard limit as a punishment would be an abusive act, as hard limits come with an automatic safeword attached, since they are specificly stated as things the person does not feel comfortable with. Never, ever, threaten or use hard limits to punish a submissive.
Use healthydiscretion. This one should seem obvious, but don’t follow through with punishments if rule-breaking was out of the submissive’s control. Say the submissive has a 11PM bedtime, but they recently suffered a trauma or loss and can’t sleep. Let them engage in healthy coping skills instead of punishing them for something they aren’t doing on purpose. Above all else, make safety and well-being a priority.
Make the punishment fit the crime. Punishments that are relative to the defiance are much more effective at changing the behaviour than random punishments. For example, if the submissive cums without permission, try a punishment from the “orgasm control” section. This will better reinforce the reasoning in the submissive and more effectively guide them to make better choices in the future. There are also punishments that work best for specific dynamics like for littles or pets, so be sure to read into those, below.
Aftercare is absolutely required. Like any kind of play, aftercare is required at the end of the scene. This is especially important during punishments because often times, the submissive is consumed with feelings of guilt and disappointment. After a punishment, Dominants need to give their submissives aftercare that includes a conversation about why they were punished, how proud the Dominant is for them taking the punishment so well, and that there are no negative feelings between them. The submissive should leave the punishment scene feeling forgiven for their mistakes and proud of themselves for making things right with their Dominant. Do not leave your submissive alone after a punishment without aftercare, ever! This is highly abusive and can seriously harm your partner.
A great way to get a submissive to stay in line is to humiliate them when they’ve done something wrong. There are several ways to go about this, depending on your dynamic and kinks, but it’s an effective and amusing way to get the message across.
Clothing restriction can be done both domestically and in public. Restriction can be as much as not allowing any clothing (in legal or private settings), ordering a certain amount of skin be showing, or choosing a specific outfit or collar for the submissive. For shy submissives, clothing restriction can be intense. This is an especially good punishment for submissives who have said negative comments about their bodies.
For ABDL or little submissives, this can either be a reward or a punishment. Depending on the comfort level with diapers, they can be used as a punishment that ties into humiliation. Making them relieve themselves in only the diaper for a set amount of time or wearing it around the house as their only clothing can be very humiliating for some people.
Sissification is a kink that is most common in submissive men. It’s the act of dolling a man up like a girl and humiliating him based on his presentation as such. This can be very effective for some people but can be very problematic to others. Be careful not to use this kink as punishment with trans or gender non-conforming subs without their explicit consent, as it can very easily trigger dysphoria and cause severe emotional problems.
Public humiliation can be done in any subtle way that embarrasses a submissive without breaking any obvious laws. Some examples include making them wear an anal plug or remote-controlled vibrator to dinner, public leashing, or making them kneel at social gatherings. Work this idea into the submissive’s specific kinks and limits to be sure it’s just enough to embarrass them, without making them unbearably uncomfortable.
Orgasm control is simply that—controlling the submissive’s orgasms. Most of these types of punishments are used for submissives who break rules about orgasms, be it without permission or when they were told not to touch themselves. Controlling orgasms is an amusing way to teach the submissive who their orgasms belong to.
Edging is the act of getting your partner right to the edge of orgasm, then denying them release. This can be done multiple times, even in short amounts of time. It’s a little psychological torture, best for those who cum without permission.
For a submissive, like myself, who is accustomed to using toys during masturbation or play, toy restriction is a very effective punishment. This is especially good for submissives who have a difficult time reaching orgasm without toys, as it makes things very frustrating very quickly. An evil punishment may even combine toy restrictions with a quota of orgasms for the day that they must reach in order to get off restriction. Desperation will sink in very quickly and this lesson will be easily learned.
Forced orgasm is another great punishment for submissives who cum without permission. It turns a great sensation into a torturous experience very quickly. This is especially great with toys like the Hitachi or a Sybian. Focus on a goal—either for number of orgasms, or a specific amount of time. An hour spent riding a Hitachi can really be the most agonizing thing for some people due to heightened sensitivity after each orgasm.
Denial is the complete opposite of forced orgasms. It’s like edging, but there is no orgasm at the end of the scene. This can be doing while using toys and not allowing the person to orgasm or it can be done by restriction orgasms or even touching oneself for a longer period of time.
Chastity, much like denial, is the refusal of orgasms. However, with chastity, the submissive is completely unable to touch themselves, even if they wanted to. Devices for people with penises and vaginas are available to purchase online to assure your submissive is following orders properly.
Domestic discipline includes things that can be done within the home. Some of these include behaviour modifications or restrictions. While some of these can be done outside the home, these are good examples of things for couples who live together can do for punishments.
Chores not only benefit the entire household, but they can also be an effective punishment for unruly subs. Added chores can be especially fun if you make her clean the bathroom with a toothbrush or make him do dishes with nipple clamps on. Combine with other punishments for your amusement!
Especially fun for people into pet-play, furniture restriction involves limiting where the submissive can sit or lie down. Require that they sit on the ground instead of the couches or sleep on the floor next to the bed if they’ve been defiant.
Another good one for pets, especially. Caging can be used to make the submissive reflect on their reasons for being punished. Be sure to use a cage small enough to confine them, but still large enough so they aren’t going to hurt themselves by spending too much time in the cage.
A great one for littles! Bedtimes are good for college students who don’t do their homework, or easily distracted adults with work to do. Set up rules that require all obligations get done and enforce an early bedtime to be sure they are well-rested (and easily frustrated) when they don’t follow these rules.
Another punishment for reflection. Time-outs are good for brats and littles because it makes them analyze what they did wrong. Put them in a corner or a special “time-out chair” so they know they are being punished. Increase the time or add in other punishments if they break rules more than once.
Sensory deprivation is a lot like time-out, but can be used for added psychological torment. Plug the submissive’s ears or use headphones, blindfold them, bind them to a bed or chair, and completely ignore them for a set about of time. This desensitizes them and not only makes them reflect on their reasons for punishment, but makes it very uncomfortable, assuring they won’t want to end up in isolation again.
Objectification is fun for Dominants who like their submissives in service to them during punishment. Make them kneel and become your footstool or coffee table while you watch TV or catch up on work. This is even better when you make them do it completely naked and/or in front of guests.
If a submissive has done something against the rules, you can make them follow a strict diet. This is especially useful for those using behaviour modification to lose or gain weight. However, be careful to ensure the submissive is still getting enough nutrition. For littles, see how much they want to be a brat after you take away their dessert privilege. For pets, try making them eat out of a bowl on the floor for each meal.
For disrespectful submissives, punish them by taking away their right to a personal pronoun, making them refer to themselves as “this girl,” “Your slut,” “Master’s puppy boy,” or anything else you want to use. You can also make it a rule that they must refer to you by your Dominant title at all times, even in public. Having to remember their restrictions on speech will keep them thinking about their punishment all day.
Corporal punishment is enforcement by physical contact. These types of punishments involve pain, which is a tricky subject for punishing. Typically, pain punishments don’t work as well to change behaviour, especially if the submissive is also a masochist. Be sure to carefully choose what kind of pain if you’re going with one of these methods.
If your submissive likes thuddy pain, use stingy pain. If they like stingy pain, use thuddy. Push their limits carefully, but make it clear this is a punishment and not for fun. Have them apologize as you strike them. Tell them why they are being punished and make it clear that they are to be good and learn from their mistakes.
Kneeling on uncooked rice is an age-old technique that leaves painful marks. Be careful with time, as this can scar if done for long periods of time or used constantly. Be present during this to be sure the submissive can take it and listen carefully for safewords. Use this as a time out or have them recite an apology to you as you do this.
Figging is done by carving a plug out of ginger and inserting into the anus. This causes a stinging pain that ranges in intensity depending on the person. Frozen ginger is a milder form of this punishment.
Writing assignments are usually meant to bore a submissive into obedience. Whether it’s writing lines or a random homework assignment, the punishment focuses on making it undesirable for the submissive to misbehave.
Writing lines is effective if you use it reflectively. For example, for a submissive who is disrespectful, you can have him write, “I will always be polite around my Sir,” a hundred times. For a submissive who cums without permission, you can order, “I will ask permission from Mistress before I cum,” until they fill up five pages. What’s even more fun is making them be stuffed with a toy or on their knees with nipple clamps on while they write.
An apology letter is a simple task meant to make the submissive think about what they have done, analyze why it was wrong, and have them apologize formally by writing it down. Have them read their letter to you our loud or crumple it up and put in their their underwear for that added perk of remembering all day that they were punished.
An essay is a good assignment for submissives who don’t seem to understand their rules. Make them come up with reasons as to why these rules are in place and write a formal essay about the reasoning and purpose of these rules. Making them analyze the fact that this is for their benefit will remind them that rules are not just there to be mean, but to guide them to healthier behaviour.
Especially fun for people with school girl or teacher fantasies, assign a random homework assignment. Ever wonder about a certain subject but never have time to actually research it? Assign a paper to your submissive about a subject of your choosing and have them report back to you—because knowledge is power! Grade their paper and reward/punish again as necessary for the quality of their work.
It’s important to remember that reinforcements are also important in addition to punishments. When your submissive follows directions, reward them. Give them a treat or praise them and thank them for being so good. If you mix positive reinforcement with punishments when necessary, they’re sure to be trained in no time!
It was a sunny Spring day and the boys were getting restless in the house. Dad was stick watching both boys while Mom went to go get a haircut. Being that it was a nice day Mike decided that it would be a waste for them to all be stuck in the house. So Mike sent Kyle and Caiden outside to go play. Since Caiden was too young to be outside unsupervised, Mike went outside to watch/play with Caiden while Kyle did his own thing.
“I’m gonna go and practice hitting the baseball in the front yard dad, OK?” shouted Kyle to his father while Mike was rolling a bouncy ball back and forward with Caiden.
“OK son, but stay far enough away from the house and cars please.” reminded Mike
“Yea yea…have fun with stinkybutt!” teased the older brother
Mike was about to correct Kyle but he was already gone. He shrugged it off and continued to play with Caiden
Kyle is Caiden’s older brother and as always happens, little Caiden is always the subject of jokes and pranks from his big brother.
Kyle was hitting the ball towards the open field like he was supposed to for a while. He was practicing for Spring baseball and wanted to make the team this year. Then he had the idea that if he practiced hitting the ball over the house, that he could hit home runs. The first ball that he hit went wide right of the house. The second one hit the house but only the bricks. The third ball was a good hit! It went high and deep….but not deep enough. I landed through the second story bedroom. Which just happened to be Kyle’s room.
Mike ran around to the front of the house while carrying Caiden to see what happened. He arrived to see Kyle standing close to the house with a broken window. Caiden saw the same thing.
“OOooo…you’re in twouble…” commented Caiden as his brother glared at him
“Hush you.” said Mike to Caiden as he turned his attention to Kyle, “Young man, what did I tell you about hitting the ball this close to the house?”
“To not to…”answered Kyle remorsefully
“And did you?” asked Mike
“No sir.” replied Kyle
“That’s what I thought, go to your room and stand in the corner. I’ll be there in a moment to deal with you.” commanded Mike
Kyle quickly rushed to his room and put his nose in the corner. Since Caiden was such a curious and rambunctious toddler, Mike didn’t want to leave him alone so he brought Caiden with him upstairs to Kyle’s room. When they got up there Mike say Caiden on the chair and Mike sat on the bed.
“Young man come here.” said Mike sternly to Kyle
Kyle went over to his father.
“Kyle do you know how much this repair is going to cost?” asked Mike
“No sir.” answered Kyle
“Well I don’t either, but I bet that you don’t have enough money in your piggy bank do you?” inquired Mike
“No I probably don’t.” said Kyle
“Exactly so who do you think is going to pay for this?” asked Mike
“Me, I guess….but it was an accident paw!” pleaded Kyle
Mike put his hand on his shoulder, “I know it was son, and that’s why I’m going to pay for it.”
“Phew, thanks pop.” said Kyle
“Don’t thank me yet son. We still haven’t talked about you disobeying me.” reminded Mike as he pulled down Kyle’s pants and underwear
“B-but dad! Caiden will see my butt!” cried Kyle as Caiden picked up Kyle’s MP3 player and earphones, “…And he’s touching my stuff!”
“Caiden’s not hurting your stuff and you can share. Who cares if he sees your butt. You see his almost everyday with his diaper changes and bath times. Not to mention all the spankings that he gets also. Now bend over.” instructed Mike as he pulled Kyle over his lap
“Please Dad, I’ll never do it again. Please don’t spank me!” cried Kyle
“I’m sure that you won’t, but you should have thought of that before you disobeyed me.” replied Mike as he started to spank Kyles bare butt
After a good sound spanking Kyle was put in time out with his bright red butt showing.
And as you can see and as the title says, “Big brothers gets spanked too,” Kyle paid… or rather his little bottom… the consequences of his mistake!
That day Caiden saw that even big brothers make mistakes as well.
***It’s a celebration day for little Caiden, at least this time his little bottom is safe from a spankings … but for how long?***
The spanker has asked Caiden (who’s 5 years old and potty trained as opposed to most pictures in which he’s 3 years old and not potty trained) to go potty. Caiden, who normally makes the potty within a reasonable time, decides not to come inside from playing to go potty and wets his pants. His caretaker, who’s not too pleased at this, changes Caiden’s jeans and lets him run around in a clean pair of undies. His caretaker warns Caiden that if he has another accident that he has to wear diapers the rest of the day
A couple hours later his caretaker reminds Caiden again to use the potty so he doesn’t have another accident and have to be put in diapers. Caiden is playing a video game and decides that getting to the next level is more important than making it to the potty and has another accident. Caiden’s caretaker is now very irritated that Caiden ignored him again and gave Caiden a good lecture,
“Caiden, because you keep on ignoring me about using the potty and having accidents you’re going to be put back in diapers” lectured Cadien’s caretaker as he cleans Caiden and puts him in a Pawpers size 8 diaper
“If you need to go potty you will come get me so I can help you take off your diaper. If you have another accident today, you’re going to get a good spanking and you’ll be in those diapers for the rest of the week.” warned Caiden’s caretaker.
Caiden reluctantly agreed and went to go play in his room. Caiden hated being in diapers again because he felt that he was a ‘big boy’. Later that afternoon his caretaker came by again and asked caiden if he needed to go potty and if he needed help. Caiden said no and continued playing with his action figures, as his caretaker went outside to do the laundry that Caiden had created.
Moments later Caiden, yet again, had another accident and wet his diaper. Caiden sulkingly headed outside to where his caretaker was and asked for a change. The caretaker was now very upset with caiden,
“Caiden I warned you what would happen if you had another accident! Come here!” lectured the Caretaker as he picked up Caiden and laid him over his lap,
“Maybe this spanking and a week in diapers will help you learn to obey me!” said the caretaker as he spanked Caiden for not listening
I hopeeverythingworks outfor the bettersoon for Caiden. It is not so match fun to get a spanking when you are wearing a wet diaper. Hope he dont ends up whit a diaper rash now or maybe that is the part of the punishment?